You are a "Survivor"?
It's getting unbearable to read all the news and news articles about abortions that have gone on at 9 months pregnant, of triplets, of women who say, "I just don't want these babies!", and blogs from women who have had, are contemplating or are encouraging others to have abortions. I just spent the last hour reading blogs in an Abortion Survivor Forum, this may be "spying" since I have not "survived having an abortion" nor am I or ever will consider an abortion and of course I am bias walking into this forum since I don't agree with a lot of what is being said. But it opened to my eyes to a few things... first of all, these women have labeled themselves "survivors", the definition of a "survivor" is to "carry on despite trauma and hardships" AND "to remain functional and useable" so just by that label they are calling abortion something they had to survive and try to remain functional afterwards. I get that many women walk into an abortion clinic their first time terrified, confused, feeling like this is the ONLY option for them, feeling pressure and lonely...but in what other situation does someone CHOOSE to be a survivor of something so traumatic and horrendous?
Some of the women in the forum mentioned that they were shown an ultrasound of their "little bean" (that's what THEY referred to their baby as which surprised me because it's such an endearing term for your child and yet you are looking at them in an ultrasound at an abortion clinic), some were told to go home for awhile and really think it over, some were whisked away quickly, sedated or knocked out, and rushed into another cold room to sit on a heating pad afterwards. Obviously the situation is different depending on the nurses, doctors and the clinic, but one thing remained the same.....
Every woman that had had an abortion or was planning too...had doubts and regrets. They struggled with this decision, it was NOT as easy as taking out your tonsils (like abortion clinics advertise), it affected them deeply before and after, it traumatized them and even if they felt relief from not having that "burden" anymore...they felt a sense of loss.
It's Best for the Baby?
The other thing I noticed reading these blogs was how many women ENCOURAGE the women who are there asking if this is really what they should do? What are their options? What can they do? to have an abortion! They encourage it like it's the BEST decision, like it's the ONLY choice... and oh boy if a pro-life comment is made in there it is blocked and reported immediately. It was presented like you either abort or you don't, there was no inbetweens, there was little talk of adoption (such a beautiful sacrifice!), there was little talk of the SUPPORT they could receive from Pregnancy Centers, Churches, etc. It was "get rid of it before it gets too big" attitude. And I say this without judging the women because I know the life situation they may be in is nothing I can understand.... but I hated to see how many women come together in order to tell another women that abortion is the "best decision for you and your baby". How is this the best decision for a baby that will not longer be alive? So they won't grow up without a dad? So they won't grow up with a lot of money or designer clothes? So they won't grow up with a disability? And how is this the best decision for a mother who now lives every day knowing she didn't keep that child?
Why is there no talk of the support that IS out there for them if they choose to keep the child OR give it up for adoption.
It IS a Baby but YOUR Body
And the last thing I noticed was that no where was the argument "it's a mass of cells" or "it's not even a human being", in fact, everywhere it was called a "little bean" a baby, a child, a person with a heartbeat, their soon-to-be "angel babies".... the argument of it not being a baby is no where to be seen. The advice that I saw most posted was "it's your choice". It makes me so sad that it doesn't even matter that it's a child in their mother's eyes as long as they have the right to make a "choice". Is there any other situation that we would say, "yes it's alive...but it's still totally up to you if you want to keep it alive".
So many abortions happen because of convenience and that scares me. I know there are many, many women that have abortions for serious situations such as getting pregnant way too young, not having a father in the picture, being pressured by boyfriends/husbands/parents, rape and so many other terrible reasons...and although I still do not agree with abortion for ANY reason, I feel for these women.
But the fact that SO many women are now aborting simply because it's not convenient to be pregnant is terrifying.
A woman in the US was 20 something weeks pregnant with twin girls, she was visibly VERY pregnant and stopped to talk to pro-life counselors before walking into the abortion clinic and aborting both of her precious baby girls. They took a picture of her pregnant belly and it circulated and caused a huge outcry offering her financial support, baby needs, and most of all, adoption for these girls. Her response was, "I don't care about this baby girls, I don't want girls because I have one at home" and she killed them and gave birth to their bodies in a toilet. It's a sick and sad story.
THAT is why we need laws concerning abortion (especially in Canada where we have ZERO laws protecting babies in the womb) - because the reality is that there ARE cold-hearted people out there that really do not value life in any way. I am NOT saying anyone who has an abortion is cold-hearted, I am saying SOME that are aborting definitely are and we need to give the babies a voice and a fighting chance.
NATIONAL BABY SHOWER DAYS
September 28th - 30th 2012 is National Baby Shower Days, this is a time where we CAN show our support for the women that have chosen life, where we can come together and help them out during a scary and difficult time. I so often get the argument from pro-choice activists "it's better to abort the child than have them grow up unwanted, unloved in foster homes with no parents - if you want them to keep this child than where are YOU when they choose to raise them?" It's a good argument in the sense that yes, if you are wanting to stand up on a pedestal and say, "do not choose abortion!" then you also have to step down afterwards and help these women when they choose life. They don't walk away from an abortion clinic after they change their mind and then it's easy from there, they need help, support, love, and yes, financial needs! So this is a time we can do that!
Collect a few baby items, buy a pack of diapers, spend a few dollars that you wouldn't miss anyways and find a mom in need (do you know how many parents put ads online asking for ANY kind of help?) and offer them a gift.
